I believe that turning off the cash-flow tap to your friend will have a two-pronged effect: First, it’ll release you mentally and emotionally from the gut-churning hamster-wheel of monitoring her spending habits. Second, it’ll help send the message that now, perhaps, it is time for her to get up on wobbly legs and stand on her own, financially.
Lord knows, it can be hard. I’ve always thought of it as a full-on battle, bullets pinging off my helmet, metaphorical mustard gas rolling toward my foxhole as I attempt to storm the ramparts of a mocking, largely indifferent, shame-dispensing world. It’s a melee out there, a brawl, a no-rules knife-fight: anyway, so it’s always seemed to me. That’s myThese days, with a pandemic gripping the globe by the throat, more so than ever.
Convince your friend the time for flitting around, borrowing from friends and complaining over chardonnay is over, at least temporarily. That these are what the Bible calls “childish things”: time to set them aside in favour of a steely determination vis-à-vis career, life and the future.It won’t happen overnight, of course. But if “her two friends” can be patient , you can get there eventually, incrementally.You’ll be doing her a massive favour. Thrift is a lost art, I believe.
really dropping your mask with this terrible story, globe and mail
Kick her out and tell her to stand on her own two feet.. you can only do so much and then she has to do it for herself!
Welcome to conservatism!