He doesn’t want us to live together before the kids are out of the house, and he never plans to get married.
I really would like to take our relationship to the next level. I have been trying to do it for four years, but he ignores my subtle hints. I can’t imagine life without him. I have even considered getting pregnant to make this relationship go further, in spite of knowing he doesn’t want a baby. Advice? -- GETTING DESPERATE IN THE HEARTLAND
As to the idea of “trapping” him by becoming pregnant in spite of the fact that he doesn’t want to be a father -- I DON’T RECOMMEND IT! You could get a rude awakening and end up parenting a child you didn’t really want all by yourself. So start imagining a life without him. It will be a happier one that way.DEAR ABBY: I have a co-worker I enjoyed talking to and being around. I’m 27, and she is 41. We used to sit together at lunch and during our break.